I am Anita Pradeep… I moved to Kochi in 1996…Settled down nice and proper with my wonderful family… I am a very down-to-earth, fun loving, talkative, friendly person. I am deeply attached to my family and friends and I nurture each relationship with utmost care. I would love to share with you our journey with our youngest son Brian fondly called Sachu, who is 23 years old now.
INTRODUCING MY SPOUSE
Married to a wonderful man, Pradeep Thomas Ninan, who is just my opposite in nature. By the time I say 10 sentences, he will utter one single word. So, you know we are poles apart but one soul. Jokes apart, he supports me unconditionally and is my rock-solid support and a wonderful loving father to my two boys.
HOW MANY KIDS TO I HAVE?
Blessed with two adorable boys. The elder one Rohit Pradeep Ninan is 28. He finished his Masters in Production Engineering and works in Hamburg, Germany. Rohit loves Art, Music, travelling and is passionate about football. Brian Varghese Pradeep (Sachu) who is 23, has passed the 12th std (NIOS).
He will be joining a private college in June to do a course in Computers. Brian too, loves music, art, travelling and is a big fan of Ronaldinho (thanks to Rohit). By the grace of God, both my boys have inherited cooking skills from their mom :-D
WHAT DO WE DO FOR FUN?
We thank God for each new day and look forward to the day with hope and joy. We go out on trips together, to our native place, spending time with our extended family. We also go out for movies, eat out at restaurants, go shopping or just being together at home, cooking together and spending time together is fun for us.
WHO IS THE STRICT PARENT?
Strict parent? I would rather say firm. When they need to be corrected for their mistakes, I have tried to be firm and not angry. Have brought up both my boys to love one another. Have tried to teach them the good values of life and to stay grounded. Prayers have always been a vital part of our daily routine. We believe that a family that prays together stays together. They have grown up to be wonderful young men.
WHY MY CHILD IS SO SPECIAL …
To begin with
Brian had no eye contact
was not toilet trained
he had those stereotypical behaviours
inappropriate laughter, etc.
WHAT ARE OUR CHALLENGES?
Challenges are mostly sensory. He cannot tolerate certain sounds. He has overcome quite a few.
After us what?
That is a question that is always there at the back of my mind. Rohit has always been and still is a major support. They share a great rapport and bond. But I want to train him in such a way, that he is self-sufficient.
HOW DO WE OVERCOME OUR CHALLENGES?
He always carries his tab with him which has a great collection of songs. And when he is uncomfortable anywhere he immediately puts on his earphones. I involve him in a lot of activities around the house. He helps me in the kitchen during breakfast and when I am baking. We take him for walks, swimming. He exercises daily and now on the request of Rohit he has also started doing push ups. He skypes with Rohit often. He is very curious and asks a lot of questions and we make sure, we patiently answer them all. And if at all there is something that we don’t know, we sit together and look up either google, if its information he wants and dictionary for meanings. He reads and writes three languages…English, Hindi and a little Malayalam too. We pray together.
He reads the Bible. He has started interacting a lot with people. The idea is to involve him in everything that we do so that he doesn’t feel inadequate.
WHAT DO I HAVE TO SAY TO OTHER FAMILIES WITH SPECIAL CHILDREN?
Stay positive. Acceptance is the major hurdle. Once that is done, make sure you don’t lose hope. Your zeal and enthusiasm will rub off on your child which helps him\her in their overall development and progress. Stay positive and be consistent in whatever you do. Never think your child is not capable. They definitely are…We need to give them a chance.
Much love from us,